There's someone I know who...I know they mean well, but they're doing more harm than good, really. It's no one reading this, by the way. I had surgery four weeks ago, yes, but this goes back to before that even. An example is something that happened last Friday, but has happened before. I needed to go to the bank, Rite Aid, and Blue Moon. In that order. This person insisted upon driving me to all of these places. Oh - and the post office afterward, to get a card mailed. The only exercise I get besides my bands and weights is walking. I'm not allowed to take stairs right now as extensively as I normally do (I live five flights up, just for the record). "That's too much walking," I get told. No it's not. I'm tired of being treated like an invalid. I am capable of walking around town, it's not that hard. Yes, I get rides to church, and to Life Group and Game night. But that's because there are sidewalks missing along the route to church, and I really hate that three-way intersection by NBT Bank. And Life Group and Game Night are in the evenings. It's dark when we get out. But during the day, around town, come on. I get told, "But if you move away, there won't be anyone to give you rides!" Well, I didn't need them in Buffalo a couple of summers ago. It's a mile and a half between Paramount Parkway and Raintree Island, some of that along a busy highway. But I managed. Heck, I walked the 15 blocks between the corner of Bailey and Kensington and UB South Campus one day. By the way, Bethany, Leslie, Rachel...whoever else is down there in the city - I won't ask for a ride unless we want to do something or whatever. Then it would make sense.
As you guys know, my parents aren't going to my graduation. There are several reasons for this. One is that my brother's fiancee is graduating from Buff State on the exact same day, so my brother will not be home to take care of the dogs. In addition, my cat is on canned food now, in the morning, so someone will need to fill her dish. My parents were also hesitant about going, which my friend Amy has not been. My mom actually had the audacity to suggest that this could be done all in one day. We go down Friday, and leave right after the ceremony on Saturday to come back. However, I absolutely must be there Friday morning for Commencement check-in. If I'm not there for that, I cannot walk on Saturday, which would defeat the whole purpose of going in the first place. This woman who's been insisting upon giving me rides has gotten really chummy with my mother. Um. Yeah. She keeps telling me, "Well, they MUST take you to your graduation! I'll watch your cat!" It's so much more than my cat...come on. I want to be able to enjoy my graduation, not go just to say I went. I went and just picked up my diploma at IC, bypassing the ceremony, but that was because I was unable to march, and also...I was right there. Not twelve hours down the road.
I just wish people would get to know my situation before they judge what I can and cannot handle. This goes for a lot of people, in regards to a lot of different scenarios that I will not go through here. Only I can figure out if I have enough spoons. I get help getting to church, to Life Group, to Game Night...I had help getting around Buffalo last summer for Ben and Chelsea's wedding, but that was really because we were all going to the same place and doing the same things (hotel, church, reception, and back to the hotel). It just made sense. But this right now...no. It's nice to be offered, but I also get made to feel bad if I say no thanks. As for my parents going to my graduation...to people who really don't know, please don't act like you do. It's not okay.
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